A go- get-advice friend is a real gem in life and to have a travel buddy is exciting. Life’s voyage is exciting when we have friends on our side. Just as a real good friend is a blessing in life a fake friend could have more adverse effects on your life.
Friends are supposed to fill your life with joy and be an inspiration to be your best. We must feel most happy and being ourselves when we are with our best buddies. The feelings you experience are comfort and emotionally safe around a real friend. And signs of a fake friend are opposite to it.
While surrounded by a fake friend you experience insecurity, manipulation, or being judged. It is wise to see you are aware enough that someone in your circle needs to be inspected on the ground of fake or real friends.
Tip of How to Spot a Fake friend
We love our friends and never want to judge them on any ground, right? But you landed on this page because someone made you suspicious with the mismatch in their behavior and commitments they made. In this post, we will cover here the strong signs of a fake friend so you can find out the reality by yourself.
Let’s figure out if your friend is a Real or a Fake friend:
1. Silver-Tongued and Sugar–Coated
Yeah! you might feel they are really good friends as they have an art of speaking where you feel always heard. Another big sign of a fake friend is that they are always sweet with you.
2. Opportunistic and Fair-Weather pal
They are always around when it is a favorable or party situation but the opposite will not be the same. You might wonder where your sweetest friend went when you are in plight.
3. Always and Everywhere Seek Favors
We all are supposed to support each other as friends but the sign of a fake friend is he/she is always a favor seeker. It’s not actually a favor they ask they just keep on seeking any benefit from you. Whatsoever is possible!
4. Compete And Demeans You
A healthy competition between friends helps us to grow in life and achieve our goals. This so-called friend will be always competitive and in a negative way and here you will always find yourself lower than this friend because he does not care for your emotions.
5. Seek Your Advice And Disobey It
You feel frustrated with this buddy as he keeps on crying about his poor situation and seeking your advice first and then they will not respect whatever you say. Either they make you feel your suggestion is useless or they will come up with a solution exactly opposite of what you suggest.
Here are higher chances they will follow your advice but never give you credit or even acknowledge your help in any way.
6. keeps On Disrespecting You
Mocking and leg-pulling are common among friends yet a true friend becomes our strength. But this one pal of yours will not find anything good to say about you ever. Whatsoever you do they have a negative or sarcastic comment ready for you with a clear intention to disrespect you.
Be careful such people around you will easily suck your confidence and make you feel you are not good at anything.
7. Not a True Well-Wisher
When we are shattered or feel low and find it difficult to open up with family; friends are the way to go. Our dispute with parents loves lives rough phase, hardship in the workplace, and many more situations we discuss with friends.
But with a fake friend, you always face a fear to be judged and not being able to open up completely. If you do so you will not find support from them in any way.
8. Misuse Your Shared Information
Reliance, understanding, love, heed, honesty are the basis of a true friendship. Secret sharing and secret-keeping are part of a bond called friendship. But if you share a secret with a fake friend he/she will tend to use the information for gossip.
A fake friend may use your secrets against you just to satisfy their false pride or break your trust among real friends.
9. Available Only if Benefied
Different friends fulfill our different needs. Few can help us with their useful guidance others can be your emotional savior. One is just a party buddy and meets you in parties and you both know the bond is limited and none will fake to show off anything further.
It’s a strong sign of a fake friend that they are not really available for you anywhere unless they do not have any benefit.
10. Manipulative in All Circumstances
Friendship is the strongest bond after family! Many of us feel friends & family are equal and when you have such deep-rooted connection and much engagement with each other conflictions also take place. We tend to get angry and sort out things sooner or later.
A fake friend will manipulate the situation in all circumstances but never get clear with their viewpoint because their intentions are not good.
11. Disappear at The Need of The Hour
You ringed your friends and asked their whereabouts. They show no haste and inform that they chilling at home. Now, as soon as you show them any urgency or throw a help request they will disappear. Their phone will not be reachable anymore or you will come to know they have some work and cant help you.
12. Always Connect On Purpose
Friends want to hear from each other just because they are friends and it feels great when we connect with each other. We connect to enjoy the moment, relish the achievements, share issues, support in griefs. But here a fake friend only connects on a purpose when he is in need.
13. Never Say Sorry
No one is perfect and we all make mistakes, that’s how humans are. And when we realize our mistakes or hurt anyone intentionally or unintentionally. We lighten up the situation with a sorry because we care for their feelings. But a fake friend will show you tantrums and drama if you spot their mistake.
14. Always Shower You With Backhanded compliment
Rightly said a true enemy is better than a fake friend who can affect you worse than you ever imagine. One smirk or negative comment is enough to break you inside out specifically when it comes from your friend.
Any friend who keeps on judging you and giving you uncomplimentary remarks notices them and takes them out of your life.
15. Take Pride in Self-Boasting
Fake people are always self-obsessed. Their whole world revolves around their needs, their preferences, and their life. They always self prioritize themselves and boast about their deeds. Whatsoever you share with such a friend they will always have a similar story to say but for sure in a superior way.
16. Invade Your Privacy
Everyone must hold the right to privacy and it is solely your wish how much information you want to share with your friend. A true friend respects your privacy and will not peep where you want privacy. But opposite to it, a fake friend will step over your defined boundaries and force you to do and accept things against your will.
17. They are Envious and Jealous
This sign you may have to find out because no will make these negative feelings obvious. When you do good in life a fake friend will be resentful. You are often complimented by them in a way where your hard work is considered as good luck or favor from someone.
A true friend knows and admires your hard work which brought you success and will never say things like you are favored by boss so your got promoted.
18. Never Take a Stand For You
When there will be a negative situation or you are in a fix this friend will be among standing away watching the drama. Or join the crowd to enjoy the situation and name it as “just for fun.” Opposite to it your real friend will be standing with you to fight the situation.
For instance, if someone makes a shallow statement for your watch which friend joins them to make the situation funny, and who gets offended or speaks on your behalf to protect you.
19. Speak Ill Behind Your Back
We all have different opinions and not necessarily our whole personality is liked by our friends. But if you often hear from different people about this fake friend spreading rumors about you or keep on speaking negatively about you for sure time to cut the cord from him.
20. They Spread Negativity
Trust your gut feeling if you feel low and do not match some people’s vibes they may act nice to you but the reality is the opposite. You feel suffocated around them or after they leave you to tend to think you are not good enough or your life is not good.
Pay attention is this feeling occurs repeatedly when a particular person affects your brain with all the communication you both had?
Above mentioned 20 signs of a fake friend will help to spot that friend whom you suspect to be a fake friend. Even if 10 traits match any friend he/she is not trustworthy be assured about it.
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But now when you know the reality what to do? We suggest you talk to someone about the whole situation and get more clarity and firmness in your decision. Once you have decided to throw fake friends out of your life. We have two suggestions to do the same.
One way to get rid of a fake friend is to maintain a safe distance and minimize interaction, stop doing favors. This fake friendship will die its natural death when you do not feed it with benefits.
The other way is to confront the person for his negative behavior or being a fake friend. The second option may turn up into a heated argument so be careful. Even you can take the help of a real friend to confront the fake friend. Including 3rd person can minimize the whole drama and its effect on you from the fake friend.
